How to use LoverMD

Choose an optional display name, confirm that you are 18 or older, and select Create account. LoverMD does not require an email address, phone number, legal name, or password.

Each person first creates a separate account. One partner chooses Create pairing code and sends the short-lived code privately. The other chooses Join and enters it. A pairing code expires after 30 minutes, works once, and is not the same as a recovery key.

Answer each question with Not for me, Maybe, or I’d like this. Your individual choice is not shown to your partner. A shared spark appears only when both of you choose Maybe or I’d like this.

In Shared Sparks, choose Ignite a conversation to randomly select one of your mutual sparks and pair it with an opening question. A spark is an invitation to talk, not consent to an activity. Keep communicating and respect that either person can change their mind.

Either partner can add a custom question for the couple. Your partner can see the question and who created it, but not whether the creator answered Maybe or Yes unless both answers make it a shared spark.

Each week, both partners separately rate how connected they have felt, how the relationship feels overall, and how confident they feel in the relationship. Each prompt uses a scale from 1, “Needs care,” to 5, “Very strong.”

The pulse is meant to start a caring conversation, not grade either partner or the relationship.

Your ratings stay hidden until both of you submit for the same week. Once you have both responded, LoverMD shows both sets of ratings to each of you. If only one person submits, the other person cannot see those ratings.

Yes. Open Pulse and choose Edit this week’s pulse. If both partners have already submitted, your updated ratings will be reflected in the shared results.

A new pulse begins each Monday at 00:00 UTC and runs through Sunday. After both partners respond, the completed week appears in Recent pulses. LoverMD displays up to eight completed weeks there.

It is the only credential that can recover your account on another browser or after you sign out. There is no email or password reset. If you lose both the key and your signed-in session, the account cannot be recovered.

Save it in a password manager or another secure place that only you control. Do not send it to your partner and do not enter it as a pairing code. Anyone with the key can access your account.

Open You, then Settings & privacy. If you created or recovered the account in this browser, select Show key. It remains covered until you choose to reveal it and is hidden again automatically after 30 seconds. You can then copy or download it.

The readable copy is stored only in that browser. The server keeps only a one-way protected version, so it cannot reveal an older key to a browser that never saved it.

You may have created the account before local key viewing was available, cleared browser storage, or signed in through an existing session. If you no longer have a separate copy, rotate the recovery key in Settings. Save the new key immediately; the old key and all other sessions will stop working.

Rotate it immediately from Settings & privacy. Rotation invalidates the previous key and signs out other sessions. Then save the new key somewhere the other person cannot access.

We count public-page loads and limited signup, pairing, and feature-use events on our own server. Anonymous visitors receive a short-lived random visitor cookie; after signup, account-linked events can be measured across devices. We do not track answer values, question details, or weekly ratings in analytics. See the Privacy Policy for retention and deletion details. Only the service operator can view aggregate analytics totals; your partner cannot.

Your individual question answers are not shown. Your partner sees only shared sparks, not your rejected interests, unanswered questions, or exact individual question answer. They can see your display name and custom questions added for your pairing.

Weekly pulses work differently: both partners’ ratings are shown after both people submit for that week. See the Weekly pulse section above for details.

Open a question collection and choose Revisit my answers. Updating an answer can create or remove a shared spark depending on both partners’ current choices.

Open You, then Settings & privacy. You can download an account data export, end your pairing, or permanently delete your account. You can also remove or change your optional display name there.

The session on this browser ends and its locally remembered recovery key is cleared. Make sure you have saved the key somewhere private before signing out. Sign out all ends every active session.